Part I: Why Are Students Averse to Displaying Emotions?
Like adults, children have a world full of experiences. They have their own routines, their problems, and people they have to deal with. They get happy, sad, frustrated, nervous, frightened, jealous, embarrassed, and more. But, are they able to express it? Not always. It is essential to understand why students are unable to express their emotions today to help them emote properly.
They Lack the Vocabulary
Kids do experience all the same emotions that adults do. However, they do not always understand how to put what they are feeling in words. So, they instead show it in their facial expressions or their body language. It is possible that they do not find the avenues to pick up the vocabulary and are unable to process their emotions in a healthy manner in their life. This can give way to anti-social behavior, substance abuse, and psychological issues. They become a hindrance in the proper growth of the child and keep them from having a flourishing future.
They Are Not Understood
As already mentioned, kids do emote and have their own ways of doing it. It is crucial that parents understand those non-verbal cues and try to understand what their kids are trying to communicate with them. If parents or teachers do not pay any attention or respond with anger or frustration, the child may completely block them out in the future. Parents and teachers should make sure that children get their due attention in their formative years. They should sit down with the kids to understand what they are going through and how they can help. The kids should feel that they are understood and they are not judged for anything they say to them.
They Don’t Have the Tools
Children find it difficult to display their emotions at most times because they do not have the tools to help them do it. They feel an emotion, but they do not understand how to process it or channel it. Their parents may have never discussed or displayed emotions in front of them, so they are clueless as to what to do with what they are feeling. While parents and teachers should keep an eye out for unruly or unexpected behavior from their children, it is not always possible for them to be around. When kids have the right tools, they understand what they feel and know how to process them.
Empowering the Kids
It is important that school administrators and teachers understand that it is significant for kids to display their emotions in a healthy and complete manner. Children can learn these skills from their surroundings. However, given the importance and the impact of these skills in the long-term, schools are now gravitating towards formally structured programs like SEL Adventures that teach these skills. With a curriculum in place, parents and teachers can be sure that their kids are learning how to emote and in the right way.